How Does She Do It All?
Do you know someone, or follow someone on social media, that has small children, a thriving business, a clean house, a tight booty and a shit hot social life, and find yourself asking ‘how does she do it all’? Meanwhile you are high fiving yourself for getting out of bed and putting away last week’s laundry off your bedroom floor! I sometimes get asked this question, even though my life is nowhere near as picture perfect as that woman I described above (particularly in the booty department!).
For those of you that have been reading my stories and articles for some time, you would know that I have a fair bit going on – like most women these days! I work full time, study, run my own separate business with multiple services, am a Mama, wife, crossfitter, friend and blogger just to name a few things. There is no doubt that life is full, blissfully so. But how do I do it all? I don’t. Simple as that.
Occasionally, I have all my shit together. My fridge and freezer are overflowing with beautiful homecooked meals and baking, we leave the house on time every morning, my home is spotless, I do crafts with my son after school, I make every scheduled crossfit session PLUS throw some yoga in for good measure, my work is ahead, I have caught up with all my friends, my health is blossoming, my family is happy, and all is well in the world. Occasionally. Actually, rarely do I have all those ducks in a row at the same time. The truth of the matter is that we can’t do everything, all of the time, and that is okay! We only have so much time and energy each day, so we need to prioritise.
Last week I made some huge leaps and bounds with my business, and at the same time I was flat out with my day job, staying back multiple nights. My son was not well, but I had gotten him to the doctors, our puppy to the vet and both were doing great. I had our meals planned out for the week ahead and was looking forward to catching up with some friends on the weekend. It probably looked like I had everything under control. BUT, my bedroom looked like a bombsite. I didn’t make it to one single crossfit class. I was feeling overwhelmed and run down and I had endless loads of washing to catch up on. Sometimes something, or multiple things, have to give. Let me repeat: We can’t do everything, all of the time, and that is okay!
That person you follow on Instagram that you envy for the way she ‘does it all’ most likely doesn’t do it all either. Maybe she has a housecleaner or hired help of some sort. Maybe she hasn’t eaten a vegetable all week. Maybe under that lounge in her perfect loungeroom is a whole pile of crap she quickly swept under there before her visitors arrived. Maybe she is on the verge of a meltdown, or is unwell, or going through something really tough, despite on the outside looking like she has all her shit together. Particularly on social media, please remember that what you usually see, is someone’s highlight reel, each picture carefully chosen to depict the story the want to tell, only showing you what they want to show you. Don’t compare your reality to someone’s else’s highlight reel. And more importantly, be kind to yourself and give yourself permission to not do everything, all of the time. It’s okay gorgeous!