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How to Wear Sexy Lingerie

It goes without saying that lingerie is among the sexiest of garments a woman can wear — some might even say that it’s designed with the specific intention of seduction.

And even if you aren’t wearing it for someone special, it can certainly make you feel sultry just knowing it’s there underneath your ensemble.

Still, there’s something intimidating about wearing, let alone shopping for, these lacy underthings. If you’re not used to wearing these extra sensual pieces, it can take some courage to incorporate them into your everyday life.

With the right garments and furthermore, the right attitude, you can feel both comfortable and confident in lingerie — so read on for some helpful guidance to feeling like your sexiest self.

Find your perfect fit

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It’s crucial to make sure you know your size in bras and panties as the fit of lingerie makes a world of difference in how it looks on your body and thus, how you feel in it. If it’s been a while since you’ve purchased any kind of underthings, it’s a good idea to have a stylist at a local boutique perform a professional fitting. That way, you can ensure that whatever pieces you’re investing in will surely be flattering and moreover, that you’ll feel secure in them.

Keep in mind, though, that fit ultimately comes down to more than just numbers on a measuring tape — it’s all about how it feels on your body.

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Get to know your personal style

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Just as you gravitate toward certain kinds of footwear and jewelry, you also will no doubt have a particular taste when it comes to lingerie styles. Luckily, there are endless different looks to choose from, so it’s all a matter of familiarizing yourself with what feels right and lines up with your unique sensibilities.

Whether you plan to purchase something online or in a local boutique, do some browsing on the Web to see what’s out there. And remember that less isn’t always necessarily more when it comes to showing skin — a boyshort panty or babydoll that has a bit of coverage is still undeniably sexy, so it all comes down to your personal preferences and comfort level.


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Parfait Charlotte Padded Bra 6901 | Parfait Charlotte High-Waist Brief 6917 in Dusty Rose/Black

Adore vintage fashion? A wild pink contrasting matte and satin padded bra with a bow detail and matching high-waist brief might have just the right retro vibe for you — as might a red and black wire bra with sheer polka-dot mesh with a matching hipster that boasts sheer side panels.


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Parfait Estelle Padded Bra P5231 in Black

If tend to stick to the classics, like an LBD, you can’t go wrong with a black balconette bra that features floral bouquet lace, and a corresponding lacy bikini.


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Parfait Elissa Unlined Wire Bralette P5012 | Parfait Brazilian Thong P5014 in Pearl White

Does your signature look scream glamour? Go for a vibrant red lace bra with a satin bow, jewel detail, and a flirtatious keyhole, and pair it with a matching panty to complete the look. Or, if you tend to prefer pieces that are feminine yet more demurely sexy, opt for a long-line wire bralette — in pearl white with scalloped lace, it’s effortlessly elegant.

Ditch the hangups

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There’s no way to feel sexy wearing lingerie if you allow insecurities to creep in.

Truthfully, so much of your sex appeal comes from confidence, and succumbing to negative thoughts about your body could seriously hinder that.

So embrace the fact that women come in all different shapes and sizes, and fortunately, there is lingerie that will flatter every curve, no matter what kind of figure you have.

If you shop in-person at a boutique or department store, fill the stylist who’s helping you in on any particular concern, whether it’s coverage, support, or something else entirely, so that they can direct you to the right pieces.

Alternatively, if you’re shopping for unmentionables online, you can look for garments that hide or highlight particular parts of the body.

Balconette bras and babydoll chemises will showcase a full bust, or you can show off a shapely rear-end with hipsters or a Brazilian thong.

Still need a confidence boost? Before sporting your sexy new pieces for anyone else, try them on at home alone — there’s something freeing and downright luxurious about lounging around lingerie on a regular day, and after getting used to seeing yourself in the mirror wearing it, you’re bound to feel far more comfortable in it.

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Whether you’re shopping for new everyday bras or lingerie for a special occasion, it’s always a good idea to seek out a second opinion. We know how hard it is to find bras that fit well and feel good, especially when you’re doing it on your own. If you’ve ever felt unsure about your bra size or you just don’t know where to go to find good bras, it’s time to let a bra fitter help.

Many specialty lingerie boutiques offer bra fittings. Their expert bra fitters will take the pain and frustration out of bra shopping and do all the work for you. Even better, their product knowledge can save you time and money. Plus, they know where all of the best bras are hiding.

If you’ve struggled with finding bras in the right size, it’s time to make a change. Visit our specialty store locator to find a store near you and schedule an appointment.

Happy bra shopping!

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Rebecca Strong

Rebecca is a Boston-based freelance writer who focuses on style, fitness, food, and travel. She has contributed to such publications as HuffPost, Elite Daily and U.S. News & World Report. When she's not writing, she can be found at home or in the studio working on the songs for her upcoming album. Her favorite bra is a black demi-cup style with all-over-lace — timeless and feminine.

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