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Real talk: While we may often admire lacy underthings and even go so far as to purchase them, sometimes it can be tough to muster up the courage required to wear them. Whether it’s insecurities about your body or uncertainty about your size or style preferences, there are plenty of reasons why we can get timid about donning any sexy unmentionables. But we’re here to tell you that you don’t need a particular body type or occasion to sport lingerie. In fact, wearing some special undergarments is a great way to practice body-positive self-love.

Need a boost of confidence to slip on that new teddy or bra and panty set? Follow these tips.

Know your size…

The first step to feeling incredible in your lingerie is knowing your right size. A bra that’s too small or big in the band or cups could cut into your breast tissue (ah, the dreaded quad boob), fail to offer adequate support, or dig into your shoulders, among other unsightly issues. So, when was the last time you had a professional fitting? Your bra size can change due to a slew of different factors, including weight changes, hormonal fluctuations (think: menopause), pregnancy, and nursing.

A professional fitter will not only help you to identify your proper size, but also make suggestions as to styles that are best suited to your needs. You can get one of these fittings done at most local department stores or lingerie boutiques. Trust us: This is likely the most important step to take in confidently rocking lingerie, as wearing your true size ensures that your underthings are flattering.

…And your shape

Fitting experts can also help you to figure out your breast shape, which is key for finding lingerie that makes you feel and look like a goddess. There are a wide variety of breast shapes, and each has unique qualities that call for different kinds of bras. For example, molded bras can be helpful for those with asymmetric breasts that want to balance out their appearance, and push-up bras are great for slender breasts that are shallow on top and need some serious lift.

Related: How To Find The Right Bra For Your Breast Shape

Identify your style

Lingerie is about as personal as it gets when it comes to types of garments — and what appeals to one person may make another person downright uncomfortable. So it’s important to consider your personal comfort level as well as your individual style when picking out lingerie. For some women, a black satin padded bra is the epitome of sexy, while for others, it’s a pale pink plunge longline bra.

While we always advise attempting to get out of your comfort zone, it’s a good idea to start out with some safe pieces while you’re building up your confidence in lingerie. The bottom line is that lingerie is about getting in touch with your sensual side, whether that means a Brazilian thong or sheer lace hipster.


Wearing lingerie can be one of the most fun aspects of being a woman, and the best part is, anyone can pull it off. The key is to find pieces that line up with your personal style preferences, flatter your shape, and fit you flawlessly. One final tip: If you’re not used to sporting lingerie, don’t wait for a special occasion to don it. Start sporting your lacy underthings around the house — the more you wear them on the regular (and catch a glimpse of how stunning you look in the mirror), the more at ease you’ll feel in these seductive pieces.

Related: How To Define Your Lingerie Style

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Whether you’re shopping for new everyday bras or lingerie for a special occasion, it’s always a good idea to seek out a second opinion. We know how hard it is to find bras that fit well and feel good, especially when you’re doing it on your own. If you’ve ever felt unsure about your bra size or you just don’t know where to go to find good bras, it’s time to let a bra fitter help.

Many specialty lingerie boutiques offer bra fittings. Their expert bra fitters will take the pain and frustration out of bra shopping and do all the work for you. Even better, their product knowledge can save you time and money. Plus, they know where all of the best bras are hiding.

If you’ve struggled with finding bras in the right size, it’s time to make a change. Visit our specialty store locator to find a store near you and schedule an appointment.

Happy bra shopping!

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Rebecca Strong

Rebecca is a Boston-based freelance writer who focuses on style, fitness, food, and travel. She has contributed to such publications as HuffPost, Elite Daily and U.S. News & World Report. When she's not writing, she can be found at home or in the studio working on the songs for her upcoming album. Her favorite bra is a black demi-cup style with all-over-lace — timeless and feminine.

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