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If you’re thinking to yourself, “My bra hurts,” – it’s likely because it’s not your size. Sometimes you can tell a bra is the wrong size just by looking in the mirror. Other times, you can literally feel it’s the wrong size – because wearing the wrong bra size can be painful.

If you’re experiencing any discomfort from wearing a bra, it’s time to get a bra fitting. Here are six painful signs that you’re wearing the wrong bra size:

1.  The underwire pokes you.

Bras with underwire should provide support, not discomfort. You’re wearing the wrong bra size if the underwire – or boning – is poking your sides or boobs. Sometimes the underwire may poke through the bra’s fabric. This happens for a couple reasons. The bra may be at the end of its lifespan, possibly due poor care or laundering of the bra. Or, the bra hasn’t fit you well for a long time and is now breaking down.

2.  The straps dig into your shoulders.

Do your bra straps leave dents in your shoulders? If so, you’re probably wearing the wrong bra size! Shoulder soreness is a sign that your bra band isn’t doing its job. The band could be too loose, putting too much pressure on the straps. This requires your straps to carry the weight of your breasts. But, that’s not the job of the bra straps at all! The cups, front band and side bands should support your boobs.

3.  The band squeezes your back.

Popular (but incorrect) belief is that a bra band will always squeeze your back. False! Where’s the comfort in having your skin squeezed? A bra band should be tight. This ensures it doesn’t ride up on your back and cause stress on the bra straps. However, you should typically be able to insert two fingers between your back and bra strap. Try loosening the bra band if it’s squeezing you. If that doesn’t help, it’s time for a bra fitting. (Remember, you shouldn’t be wearing your bra on the tightest or loosest hook! Ideally, you should fasten it on the second hook, so you have room for adjustment.)

4.  The cups squeeze your boobs.

The cups of your bra should hug your boobs for proper support. But, the cups shouldn’t squeeze them to the point where it’s uncomfortable. Head to your local lingerie store for a bra fitting if your bra is squeezing your breasts and causing a lot of boob spill-over.

5.  The front band sits on your boobs.

Do you have an under-boob situation? This can happen when the center panel of the bra (called the gore) doesn’t sit flat on your chest. The gore and the underwire should not be lifted or sitting on your breasts. This can be super uncomfortable and is usually a sign that your bra is too small. Instead, the underwire should sit firmly on your ribcage, and gore should touch your chest. This makes sure that the bra stays in place and remains supportive. Plus, it provides you a comfortable separation of the breasts – because no one wants to have a uni-boob.

6.  You’re just uncomfortable in the bra.

Bras aren’t meant to be uncomfortable. In fact, you shouldn’t be able to tell that you’re even wearing one when it fits you well. If you’re generally uncomfortable in your bra, you’re probably wearing the wrong bra size.

How you feel in your bra plays a major factor in your day. Don’t let bra discomfort steal your joy. Get a bra fitting stat if you experience any signs of wearing the wrong bra size! Being comfortable and confident in your bra is invaluable.

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Whether you’re shopping for new everyday bras or lingerie for a special occasion, it’s always a good idea to seek out a second opinion. We know how hard it is to find bras that fit well and feel good, especially when you’re doing it on your own. If you’ve ever felt unsure about your bra size or you just don’t know where to go to find good bras, it’s time to let a bra fitter help.

Many specialty lingerie boutiques offer bra fittings. Their expert bra fitters will take the pain and frustration out of bra shopping and do all the work for you. Even better, their product knowledge can save you time and money. Plus, they know where all of the best bras are hiding.

If you’ve struggled with finding bras in the right size, it’s time to make a change. Visit our specialty store locator to find a store near you and schedule an appointment.

Happy bra shopping!

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